Dikeledi's Diary

As we all know, August is a month in which we show appreciation to women in South Africa as we also celebrate them on the 9th of August every year... My question to you is: Why do we continue to celebrate women, and wish them a "Happy Women's Day" or "Happy Women's Month" when some, if not most of them, are not actually happy, and are living in fear each and every day of their lives? How many women are actually happy? I wish I had the answers to those questions, but unfortunately, I, myself do not have the answers to them. I know I have written something on women before, but I have noticed how the issue of women being abused, kidnapped, raped and violated against in any form has become a major issue in the country. It has escalated and it does not seem to get any better. Women are still living in fear for their lives. Women are not the only ones affected by this issue, the men around them are also affected. They constantly have to worry about their w...

Disclaimer: I am not hating, or throwing shade. I am just an individual voicing out my thoughts and opinions. To anyone that gets offended, I am not sorry for feeling the way I feel, you probably fit the descriptions and your actions probably match those that will be described in the blog post, it’s not my fault that you are the way you are after all. Let’s start by defining the two words… The term slay refers to “killing a person or animal in a violent way”. The world has however, created a new meaning to the word; we now refer to it as “looking good/hot”. The term queen refers to “a female ruler of an independent state”. I believe the word has not lost its meaning, there are independent women who rule their own worlds. Unfortunately, I cannot say the same about the so-called “slay queens”, who are “young and naïve girls who do not date broke men, and spend hours on social media showing off things they do not even own”, they are in fact, ruled by men. Looking good, and having...

For some, it is a very long and tough month, while others find it to be a month like all the others. For me, it is a time of introspection, a time to reflect on what I have achieved and what I really want in the new year. I would not call it making new year’s resolutions, they never seem to work. Life happens, and you forget about your resolutions and take each day as it comes. January is month that determines whether the new year will be yours or not. Many are looking for jobs and finding means to register at universities, it is indeed a tough month. We have all spent our money in December and the only money we have left is for putting food on the table, checking in at internet cafés to see if we do not have important emails regarding those jobs that we have applied for, and to make sure we have not missed registration deadlines for university, it is a month where most people would say “umthwalo wami uyangisinda” (My problems/burdens are too heavy for me), it is a stress...

The Four P's The Art of Being Patient, And Never Giving Up Dreams, goals, and desires… We all have something we want in life; To be successful, to own our own businesses or dream homes, to have the “perfect family”, or to just live. Question is, how do we fulfill the desires of our hearts? I do not have the answer to that, but I do have this to say… Prayer You know what you desire to have, talk to God about it (Pray). Tell Him what you really want, and ask for wisdom, knowledge and the necessary resources required to get what you want. Although He may not give you what you want at the very moment that you ask for it, trust that He will give it to you in due time (where there’s a will, there’s a way). Ask somebody you trust for advice, if you do not trust anyone, keep it to yourself, let it be between you and God, and go on with your plan, after all, not everyone wants to see you succeed. Stay persistent in your plans. You may fail a thousand times, but for ever...

What is happening in society today brings a feeling I cannot even begin to describe. I am somewhat sad, angry and disappointed at the fact that women in South Africa are being tormented by the ruthless men in the country, and have become subject to the cruelty of these men. At first, it was the taxi rape saga that came about early on in the year, where women would innocently catch a taxi to get to their destinations, only to get mugged and raped. And then there came a story whereby women got abused in their relationships by their so-called 'lovers'. And now we suddenly have women who are being abducted while walking in the street. WhatsApp broadcast message currently going around to keep people aware of the new trend. It has come to my attention, and to the attention of many other people, that women are no longer safe in this country. We are not safe in our own homes or in the streets, we just aren't safe anywhere. At home, we get armed robberies, in the streets, ...

Have you ever had to forgive a person who was not sorry? Have you ever had to apologize or say “sorry’ to someone, even when you had not done them any wrong? The word 'sorry'  is an apologetic term used to express feelings of sadness, sympathy, or disappointment, especially because something unpleasant has happened or been done. “Sorry” is such an easy word to throw around, and most people use it unnecessarily, “sorry I did not read your message sooner”, “sorry, can I pass”, “sorry, I need to go to the bathroom”; just to name a few examples. It sometimes does not make sense to use the word, a person can just excuse themselves in some instances, and apologize when they actually need to apologize. The reason why people (especially women) tend to use the word sorry a lot, or apologize more often is because they have a negative state of mind which tells them that they are responsible for everything that goes wrong, or they just find it easier to apologize, j...