Sorry, Not Sorry

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Have you ever had to forgive a person who was not sorry? Have you ever had to apologize or say “sorry’ to someone, even when you had not done them any wrong?

The word 'sorry' is an apologetic term used to express feelings of sadness, sympathy, or disappointment, especially because something unpleasant has happened or been done.

“Sorry” is such an easy word to throw around, and most people use it unnecessarily, “sorry I did not read your message sooner”, “sorry, can I pass”, “sorry, I need to go to the bathroom”; just to name a few examples. It sometimes does not make sense to use the word, a person can just excuse themselves in some instances, and apologize when they actually need to apologize.

The reason why people (especially women) tend to use the word sorry a lot, or apologize more often is because they have a negative state of mind which tells them that they are responsible for everything that goes wrong, or they just find it easier to apologize, just to keep the peace between themselves and the other party. Apologizing, or saying sorry is linked to being polite, having a people-pleasing personality or avoiding conflict.

I am guilty of using the word sorry, I utter the word even when I do not have to. I have had to apologize to a lot of people just because of who I am, I do not want a person to stop talking to be just because I did them wrong, if a person is going to walk away from you, they should at least tell you.

 Never apologize for who you are, never say sorry if you do not mean it, if you did not do anything wrong, or if you need to excuse yourself; excuse yourself rather, instead of falling victim to being guilty of something you are not even meant to plead guilty for. Forgive those who are not sorry to you, even when they do wrong to you. It is better to forgive than to feel sorry, or regret the fact that you did not forgive a person. Rather be a person of peace than one of holding grudges, it will benefit your own well-being and get rid of uncertainty, self-doubt or unconscious feelings. do not be a "sorry, not sorry" victim. Be a person who is sorry, really sorry! 
Picture of Beyonce singing "Sorry"


Comments

  1. Setjhaba E. Moleko17 August 2016 at 05:53

    Nicely written. I am in total agreement with what you saying hey, people nowadays use 'sorry' loosely these days and it's so flipping annoying.

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    1. Dikeledi's Diary17 August 2016 at 09:35

      I know right. I use the word as is it's toilet paper myself and I am tired of it

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  2. Motlotlo Mosiuoa19 August 2016 at 10:06

    Hmmm, sorry... Since you are a victim of the word, will stop using it?

    Do you know the Tarrus Riley Riddim Song? it has a chorus that goes like

    "Am sorry that, you sorry but sorry is not good enough for me baby
    Am sorry that, you sorry but sorry can't dry my tears lady
    Each time we fight, you came with your same story
    Now you sorry but am sorry cause i can't accept your apology"

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    1. Dikeledi's Diary20 August 2016 at 13:25

      I can say that I am trying to stop using the word unnecessarily.

      And no, I do not know the song, but the lyrics seem deep. I should listen to it ;)

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  3. Unknown22 August 2016 at 18:53

    Love your piece. Powerful words. continue spilling the "ink"

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    1. Dikeledi's Diary23 August 2016 at 06:20

      Thank you very much. I shall spill more of the "ink", it's people like you that make me spill it, by encouraging me to do more.

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