To Slay, Or To Be A Queen

Disclaimer: I am not hating, or throwing shade. I am just an individual voicing out my thoughts and opinions. To anyone that gets offended, I am not sorry for feeling the way I feel, you probably fit the descriptions and your actions probably match those that will be described in the blog post, it’s not my fault that you are the way you are after all.

Let’s start by defining the two words… The term slay refers to “killing a person or animal in a violent way”. The world has however, created a new meaning to the word; we now refer to it as “looking good/hot”. The term queen refers to “a female ruler of an independent state”. I believe the word has not lost its meaning, there are independent women who rule their own worlds. Unfortunately, I cannot say the same about the so-called “slay queens”, who are “young and naïve girls who do not date broke men, and spend hours on social media showing off things they do not even own”, they are in fact, ruled by men.

Looking good, and having all the nice things that money can buy is not a train smash if you get them from a good place, that being from working hard to earn all those flashy nice things that everyone desires to have. Yes, we all like to put on make-up, buy expensive hair, get our nails done, and wear expensive clothes etc. The problem starts when we use men to take us out of our “broke” nature, we date men that buy us all these nice things, and give us money, take us to all the fancy places that we dream about and all, in exchange for sex. Dear young lady, respect yourself enough to walk away from that lifestyle, instead, work hard to live that lavish lifestyle that you desire to have. Putting on make-up and wearing nice clothes just to go to a club knowing very well that you are broke is the very same reason why men take advantage you. You go there with the mind-set that you are going to get men at the club to buy you food and drinks. What do you think happens after they pay for your food and drinks? They take you to their house, in fact, they respect their wives or girlfriends enough to take you to a B&B or hotel just so that they can sleep with you. Yes, they will keep contact, I mean they still want to “tap that ass”. 

I do not blame these men that advantage of young naïve girls. The reason why these slay queens go missing and get abused, is because of all the money that men invest in them to maintain their beauty. Dear young girl, stop drawing unnecessary drama to your life, you are much more than just a few Madiba notes. 

To those that know me, you know that for the longest of time, I never wore make-up, wore weaves, and gotten my nails done. That was all because I could not afford all those things. I had to work hard to start wearing all those things. It offends me every time a person refers to me as a slay queen because I have started indulging in getting my nails done, wearing weaves, and make-up etc. because I do not understand where all that comes from, maybe we need to re-define a slay queen? For one, I do not go clubbing, I do not pay attention to rich men, let alone men; I play with guys in the same league as me. I do not accept cash from men, for the longest of time I have referred to myself as “Miss Independent”, and I still stand on that term. I wear all these things to look good, and feel good. I do not ‘have to’ wear these things, like some girls do, I just want to wear them because I like things, lol.

Anyway, I believe in queens, girls that rule their own worlds. In fact, I believe in “queens that slay”. To put that in good term, I mean girls that kill their looks. They look in order to be the rulers of their independent states. I am that girl, make-up or no make-up, I am a queen that slays. I do not let men categorize me, I do not “slay queens” categorize me, I categorize myself. My crown is to bright to be ruined by a group of people that do not even know my worth. I may not have all the money in the world, expensive taste (in clothes, hair, make-up etc.), but I know for sure, that some day, if I continue to work hard, I will have all these things. I do not need a man to make me look good, I need myself to look beyond the world class, and to get to where I want to be. I can travel the world, and get all these things that money can buy all by myself. “Easy come, easy go” they say. Dear young girl, please be smart enough to not let the desires of your heart ruin your life, be a beauty with brains.

being a slay queen is all that you are going to be because you are dependent on somebody’s husband to give you money and make you look good. Don’t be that stupid girl. Love yourself, respect yourself and get your money the right way.